DKDC

Short for Dont Know Don't Care. This was the brainchild of my fren, CCS. It came out of the blue while we were discussing some work issues. And now it has become somewhat my motto at times.

The more you know, the more you're being held accountable for. This would be why a lot of people now are very good at 'buat bodoh', because really, it works. You can dodge all the irrelevant work that was in the first place pushed to you.

What about all those family feuds and scandals? Frankly I would rather not know for once you step into the matter, you're gonna have to be 'involved' all the way. I really think sometimes family members should 'jangan jaga tepi kain org lain!' Problem is that 'some' family members just never draw the boundaries, or they just go over it.

Even in friendships, the less you know is better. I know some of my friends over a certain period of time, must have had some sort of disagreement that led to them being enemies or sore friends. Well, I really rather not know. If they choose the relationship to be of such state, then it's their choice. Why meddle when there are some things that are just best left alone? It's not that I can't be bothered, I just think it's not my right to bother anyways.

So, try this new motto. DKDC. The less you know sometimes may just do you some good.

Is Money Ever Enough?

I know so many times in my blog i've stressed that money is not everything. But then again, we do need money if we were to indulge in whatever that we want to. We need money for almost everything.

We almost eat, drink and breathe money... Even that drop of tap water we drink costs something. This year sees me scrummaging and relooking into my finances as i juggle in between schedules to plan my budget apropriately. I want to indulge but it all eats up my money. Sigh. It almost feels like my dough is on the Ferris Wheel where the boarding junction is where the money all pours out to.

That is why we're constantly looking for ways to make more money, unless one is contented to not travel, or experience anything and lead a simple life. But, if we find the best way to make a lot of money, when to stop before we're labelled greedy? it's a fine line indeed.

Glimpse of Borobudur

Gaudi's Work

Casa Milà - Barcelona

UPTIGHT

I wish people would stop being so uptight. These are usually the negative ones, the ones who wouldn't do anything that makes them look dumb, the ones who worries about ruining their makeup. These are also the ones who never joins any outing because they think it's too silly or boring.

Well, i had a friend who would never meet friends of mine. I have another friend who never lets me swear in public because it's too 'unbecoming' blehhhhhhhhhhhh. I have a friend who never eats alone in public. I have a friend who doesn't talk about anything remotely related to sex.

Sigh, what age are we in? In being so uptight, these people somehow loses out on what may or could have been the best time of their lives, or meeting the love of his/her life, or the soulmate for life.

If they think being uptight makes them look more 'high class', then I'll rather be low class. :)

Shrieks of Joy- Genuine ones...

It's wonderful to see a kid exclaiming genuine Shrieks of joy. There's just too many phoney adults who fake their laughs and 'ampu'/'layan' their bosses or business partners 'with benefits'. People may say this was NECESSARY and inevitable, it's just a mindset really. Everyone just thinks we have to. I get by well enough without having to do so. I might now be grossly rich but i'm contented. Is that not sufficient?

Change Your Mind

Racey days

Help me through the hopeless haze

But my oh my

Tragic eyes

I can't even recognise myself behind

So if the answer is no

Can I change your mind - The Killers (Change Your Mind)

Sometimes we are so fixated on our mindset that we refuse to change. We were moulded to be that way with our upbringing and perhaps years of influence from peers and media and etc. We have our own 'bible' to follow, our own principles and faith...what not.

But how can we progress if we do not accept changes or welcome changes. One cannot always stay in his/her zone and not venture out to the ever changing society. Unless you wanna be some 'katak di bawah tempurung'.

What is more worrying i think is the asian mindset. We are too conservative in some aspects....and too western-wannabe in some aspects.... We are also somewhat rigid on certain issues especially when it comes to sex. Even though the actual 'practise' much differ from what we project as conservative.

If we wanna be a better person, change your views and perspectives about certain issues. Listen more to what people have to say and really consider and evaluate. Open your mind. People who see things in a big picture can achieve greater heights.

Places to Go

If only i had a buckets of money, i would most probably indulge the travel bug in me. Tried to go as many places as i could with what little money i have. I'm one of those who probably won't mind shabby huts and dirty facilities, so long as i accomplish seeing and experiencing what i set out before i embark on a journey. it's the experience that counts, not the fancy hotel you stay in.

I've made it a point to see more of Malaysia. I realize that i've been to TOO few places in Malaysia. Thanks to Gallivanter and Cely, i went to revisit PD, Melaka, Bukit Tinggi and the next trip probably to Gua Senyum. One of the places that i've always wanted to go was Taman Negara. Seriously.

Am also not into the citylike places. If you ask me, i wouldn't want to live in a city anymore. The hustle and bustle is great but afterawhile everything just seems so phony that you just wanna go to a hideaway and stay there. indulge in fresh air with kopi-o on the side. yar..the nescafe kopi-o and not the starbucks coffee of the day. The big cities that i've been to, even if it's in asia or US or Canada, they all give you the same feeling. Lost. Busy. Crowded. Noisy. Rushed. Paranoid. SO, yeah, staying away from big cities this year.

Give me a historical haunt anytime. Am blessed to have seen Angkor Wat last year and Vietnam this year. one thing about asia is that we are still very much culturally-inclined which makes the experience all the more worthwhile. so...next is Borobudur Temple in Solo, Indonesia. hoping to go sometime in sept/oct. maybe i have a thing for temples...who knows.

Annoying Annoying Annoying!

Annoyance of the week...

1) Girls who speaks softly - i almost have to shout a loud HAH to encourage them to speak louder. It doesn't make you any more 'lemah-lembut' by being soft.

2) Taking instructions from people who doesn't know what he/she is doing. Yar....the bosses and all. It's like as if they're taking you on a ride.

3) People who keep ffk-ing last minute.

4) Aunties who thinks they know better.

5) LOST MAILS via snail mail!!!!

6) Office server that keeps going bust.

7) People who are never ever on time. 10 mins late is ok..but 1-2 hrs late is a little stretching it.8

8) Road bullies. Hoi, if you wanna drive fast go to the circuit or something. The road is meant for everyone. Slow drivers too.

9) Customers. They think we owe them everything just because they are our customers.

10) My car that died on me for 2 days! Arghhhhhh....... dammit

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WHY WE NEED WOMEN AT WORK

Here's a few reasons why...see if you agree, purely based on my experience and judgement.

1) Women at work are the communication bridge- men amongst men hardly communicate especially when it comes to work-related issues, perhaps out of ego, or they just refuse to answer or be questioned by their co-workers. That's when women come in to picture. We're just better at making small talks and just more tactful i suppose.

2) Women brighten up the workplace. Yar sure, women are noisy at work, but really, we lit up the office! Unless you prefer facing a bunch of boring old/young men who hardy say anything and look gloomy trying to do the work at the desk.

3) Women bring in lotsa great food eats. Women just love to cook and sometimes bring it to work and share with their colleagues, some do it because they love to share, some do it because they wanna show off their cooking skills. Anyhoo, everyone at work gets to eat it..so who cares what the real motives are!

4) Women can talk and talk and talk! Hey, when you need a break at work, who would you usually look for? Is it the old dud or boring young male engineer or do you go and look for the chatty female secretary who always has something juicy to talk about?

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HUMAN FRUITS

Durians- most men and women are like durians. They are thorny on the outside, can 'perli' and diss you like you're worth nothing, but inside, they melt like cream when it comes to the people they love. Durians are also bullies who may look tough on the outside but when provoked they probably have not much substance to fight back.

Rambutans- I classify people who are crazy like rambutans. The redness symbolize the constant drunk mode the person is always in, and the rambutan hair is just like the gila hair we have. You all know what gila hair is right?

Papayas- I always say Singaporeans are yaya papaya-s.... well, just stand for yuppies. There are some sprouting in KL already. You see an increase in number of yaya papaya-s who lives on credit cards and have no financial security - most of the time living the jetsetter life and a wannabe life while pulling all strings trying to manage their finances.

Watermelons- might look and sound juicy on the inside, and as you dig deeper, yar it is still juicy but when you really evaluate that person, he/she are full of seeds, bad seeds even. those seeds are like vices. every person has their own secret vices. maybe on over-indulgence in liquor? porn? whatever... not everyone is as good as they project themselves to be. Dont be fooled.

Up to My Nose

This is my sanctuary to pour my thoughts really, so pls bear with me. Am lately finding myself questioning what the hell i'm doing in the place i work at. i should have left when i had the chance last year but i was persuaded by the great boss of mine and the promise of a better salary that never materialized.

And now i'm stuck here. Doing all sorts and what nots that i don't find particularly stimulating. people say you cannot expect to have great times at work, there would be boring and monotonous moments but maybe this is even lower than the lower limit of expectations.

What i cannot understand or am baffled is how i've probably explained some SAME simple procedures to the same people even of managerial level over the 4 years i've worked here. Imagine hearing yourself uttering the same stupid things over and over again. it's almost as if people do not listen or do not bother to understand.

Good leadership ensures the operation to run smoothly. Even if you have monkeys as subordinates, if delegated and managed well, even monkeys can perform. No? I can't tolerate another meaningless, indecisive, inconclusive meeting anymore.

Yar yar..i know. I need another job. Or another avenue to run to. Working on it.

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The Selfish Me

I can't help being selfish sometimes. If i dont think for myself, who will? Who's gonna do what's best for me? Who's gonna decide what's best for me. Is it wrong to be selfish sometimes? I think not. What's wrong with loving oneself? If being selfish harms no one and makes you 'gain' , then how can that be wrong? I am not a saint who's gonna be doing good and thinking about everyone else in the world. If i can't love myself how can i love others? :) Have a nice day.

Conservative Fools

Here's what conservative fools in Malaysia think....

1) That women ought to stay at home and take care of the family. Some would even exclaim why in the world do women wanna have a career etc, even women themselves think that way.

2) That bfs must pay for the gf's meals, shopping, etc.

3) That if you eat dog meat, dogs will bark at you.

4) That pre-marital sex is bad.

5) That you have to have a degree to be labelled as reliable and stable and smart.

6) That quiet men/women are boring.

7) That bimbos are dumb.

8) That women should marry before 30 or else they go 'expired'.

9) That all indian men get drunk and beat up their wives.

10) That singles have no life.

Chinese Dialect Deficiency

Just recently someone asked if i can speak or understand mandarin. Unfortunately my vocabulary is limited and hence i i dont half understand what people say most of the time. Despite attending POL (People's Own Language) classes since i was 9 till 15 i still don't get Mandarin. if you ask me, it is the hardest language to learn but most would say arabic is the hardest since it is more complicated.

But i must say that i do regret not being able to speak mandarin. I had to get by with my somewhat pathetic cantonese. Yar, my cantonese isn't that good either. Sometimes in a conversation, some metaphors or simpulan bahasa my frens use, i don't really understand. Half the time i'm trying to figure out just what they said or just pretend that i understand.

I have perhaps missed out on about 3 good job opportunities in China because I can't speak mandarin. So yeah, I do have regrets. I tried to learn by listening to cantonese and mandarin songs. That lasted for only a while because i can't really stand the monotonous, mechanical, predictability of cantonese/mandarin songs. If it wasn't for karaoke, I probably wouldnt have somewhat improved my vocabulary. Learning a word a day might just do me some good.

Ok..so maybe i can sing a song or two in mandarin/cantonese, but i still can't utter a complete sentence in mandarin for the love of gawd! i was in Taiwan last year and some street vendors got somewhat pissed off that i couldnt converse with them in mandarin. Or Hukkien.

Having said that, me not knowing Cantonese/Mandarin doesnt make me any less Chinese than the chinese-ed people. I dont idolize the west. Some smart ass thinks that we refuse to learn mandarin because we look down on it. Or that we are snobbish. I just think some people just a higher ability to be language proficient especially Mandarin. I happen to be someone who is just not so good in Mandarin. It's no crime, right?

My Interview

Here are some of the observations I've made from the many interviews i've attended.

1) Malaysian style: they like to ketuk you, saying you're actually not qualified, even though you were shortlisted, and then they try to ask for your minimum acceptable salary . Someone actually asked me if i'm willing to take a 20% pay cut. it almost feels like i'm in chatuchak market in Bangkok trying to bargain to get the best price.

2) the interviewers like to throw in big words...ask you things that they are fully knowledgeable about. but when you throw in something that they ought to know but they dont, they get bit pissed off coz they think you're a smart alec. they'll most likely look at you blankly and move on to the next question.

3) they always always ask me if i'm married and if i drive. reasonable question i would say, only because even now, a lot of women dont drive and dependent on their spouse for transport.

4) what i'll be doing in 5 years. geez. seriously, i don't really think this is a good question. not in malaysia at least. if you're lucky, you're in a mnc, yar..you can say you wanna be in management etc. if you're in a chinaman company not by choice but because you don't have a better job, what can you expect in 5 years? endure or keep looking for a better job. it's easy to plan but to have it realized, there's many factors to consider.

5) what i can contribute to the company. alamak, haven't even hired me and already asking me that. honestly, whatever answer me or another interviewee gives is pure bullshit. why question what i can contribute when if hired, it is the manager's responsibility to ensure i contribute and get things done. ain't it?

I'm looking forward to more intelligent questions from interviewers really. I haven't met a good one so far. perhaps a few who actually requested that i prepare a related presentation.

About Wedding Dinners..

This is certainly a year for WEDDINGS. When i was younger, i used to love attending weddings...because of the fairytale-like of it all, the food, etc. Now as i get older, i began to question the meaning of it all.

1) Sure wedding ceremonies is to celebrate the union of two people. If that's the case, is it not sufficient to invite close friends and most importantly the family? nowadays, many cannot avoid inviting business-related attendees...for?

2) Brides are made to be queen-like on that day. They dress up and redress and dress up again. They hardly eat because of all the changing of attire sessions. It somehow feels like a fashion parade in some. Ever seen a bride trying to fit in the dress with lotsa 'tools'? Pure torture.

3) Angpows. Beginning to find it a real burden. Especially when you don't really know that person that well, but it has somewhat become an obligation to give angpow anyways. And even if that person is close, there's a minimum of RM100. Some actually make money out of it. Justified, u think?

4) Liquor- booze for all. Mostly sapu-ed by the drunkies. Purely unjustied when they are having more fun than the bride and groom.

5) Really, do the bride and groom actually have fun on that day? perhaps maybe at the end of the day. Pouring out the money plus lotsa obligatory smiling and layan-ing, i really doubt it.

6) Some people actually compare how luxurious the wedding is compared to this other fella's wedding. meticulous planning and fighting (no doubt) and preparation for just one day. Justified, you think?

Most of my friends do without the whole dinner thing nowadays. Mostly because of monetary constriction. WHAT SAY YOU?