What a year this has been ; I learned that:
1) How to not care anymore … and what I mean by that is to be even more direct and blunt . Say what you mean and mean what you say. I feel this is rather easier said than done because even for me personally I tend to not want to hurt the other person’s feelings . But sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. And if not, erase it like it just doesn’t matter.
2) How to say No. and it’s hard. It’s also a constant reminder to put ourselves first and that’s not natural for most people.
3) Love those around you. The family and the friends that stick with you are what truly matters. It’s been rather overwhelming and I could always count on family to support and friends to lend a listening ear. And it can really just be a random rant over text or a quick 5 mins call is really all we need.
4) Letting go. The struggle between letting your kids grow and be independent vs you worrying constantly if they are ok or would be ok. You just have to say “go, do your thing” but you need to also suppress your need to constantly check on them. Is it the same for other parents out there ?
5) You can only do your best. And if the best is not good enough I think ask where to improve because skirting around it won’t help anyone. I am really at a point where I’d say “ tell me. Give it to me straight. And if I can work on it , I will but if I can’t I will let you know.” And if your best ain’t good enough for nobody then so be it.
