The Bald Truth

Are you like me coming to terms with a possibility of going bald in the near future? i can't help but look at old pics of me and realize how much hair volume and qty! i've lost!!! it's a nightmare. yes it not onli happens to men but also women, much to my dismay.

I've tried cutting my hair short. If you're like me and W who need to have the long locks to twirl and play with when we're thinking or when we're nervous, so THIS DIDNT WORK.

then i tried keeping a fringe. so totally not used to it and it always make me feel like "Lam Ah Chan" just without the silly black specs. but still, a total frump!

So, i got this RM100++ hair shampoo and conditioner from Redken, and it worked! it stopped the scalp itchiness and my hair on the top grew back a bit...I gave away the conditioner to a 25 year old cousin who is ALREADY BALDING. ARGHHH.....

The ugly truth about balding is that, IT"S GONNA HAPPEN. what's ur remedy.

We all need a Napoleon in Us

Remember http://tihtahpah.blogspot.com/search?q=napoleon+dynamite ??? Napoleon Dynamite's motto : he's out there to prove he's got nothing to prove. Very deep coming from a geek like him, kaka.

Why's everyone wanting to prove themselves to other people anyways? For e.g, in a simple conversation, no one wants to know how much money you make (unless someone asked you about it!). And you don't have to lose weight because you're afraid of people laughing at you. And you don't always have to prove to others that you're right, coz even if you are, just take it that the others probably are just too ignorant and why waste your breath anyways to explain to people who might not even understand anyways. So, yar, i've learned to ignore. people make funny english mistakes like "the ball is under your leg", just laugh along, and ignore.

Maybe it's our constant need to be accepted; whether at work, or with friends or at home. Our need to be better than everyone else. Our need to always constantly stand out and be fabulous or glamorous; you know those that "just wanna be seen", didnt matter if they were actually having a good time or not.

If only we were a tad like Napoleon, boh chap and tihtahpah, maybe we'll be a lot happier.

Kenapa.....

I dont know why people like to say how hard they work or how busy they are or how they have to OT everyday.

I know some of you guys out there are just as goyang kaki as me. Dont lie. And yar, i'm one of those who goes home ON THE DOT. I dont work more than I should. I've paid my dues when i first started out in the working world and am not gonna sit around in the office AFTER working hours pretending to be busy.

What's wrong with admitting that you're so free your 'part time' job at work is surfing the net? Don't lie coz i see most of u guys online anyways!

haha. Happy labor day :)

A Different Feel

There are a few movies, that I could watch a few times over and over again, and feel differently about it everytime. Like "When Harry Met Sally", or "Forest Gump" , even Star Wars......

Maybe it's coz of our experiences, some moments and scenes are so similar to your own life instances.

A PJ Affair....

It's been a long time since i met Daniel, Mel, Chelva, Wan Shen, and got them round to meet at DU for nasi lemak. Chelva got an emergency call and off he went; his dad had a seizure and apparently was hospitalized for 3 weeks already. Sadly, his dad passed away yesterday morning.

And so me and Andrew head off to PJ to his house without knowing his address, roamed a bit at Paramount Garden, till we got a call from Daniel to head on to the PJ Crematorium. And so we were there. I didnt know there was a chinese one and a christian one, but the cremation was done at the chinese one. The whole thing was done rather fast. We went on to Chelva's house.

What is it with PJ that it is so hard to find any house? Truly, if u know Chelva, there's no way of giving directions to his house. Even CHelva admitted he'd attempted and failed. ahhahah.

The thing about going for wakes, I always don't know what to say or what to feel. Chelva was in a rather good mood and we were kinda laughing a bit. Reminded me when my grandma died and me n the relatives were laughing out loud, neighbours were wondering what kind of a wake was that.

And I guess just having friends around helps, not just for the 'white gold' hehehe, but more for company during a fragile moment.

Edu-Protest

When my sis went back to school last year, there were a lot of negative remarks, like "aiyoh, so old study for wat?", "better save my time and go work and make money (what they meant was that studying is a waste of time)", or that "when you gonna get marry then? why not u get married?". i'm more comfortable if people just admit that they can't study anymore like me. I opted to do an easier course in TESOL, but..

Ultimately, what's wrong with studying? Since when education is a bad investment. it didnt matter that it was totally FREE.

Andrew got the same treatment from his colleagues recently. I encouraged him to take up a course that is completed FREE as well, and at the end of the 1 year course, the company immediately up your salary by RM500. So, what has he got to lose? i think it beats wasting your time sitting in the cinema anyway. he's getting education wat.....how wrong can that be...

Well, i dunno why all these people are so negative, but i suspect that most of these people from my sis and his peer group, well, i think they just wanted them to stay in the same mode and league, because they feel more comfortable, and seeing them surpassing them in terms of qualification just bugs them. Maybe even with a tinge of jealousy and envy.

And even if you don't feel that way, well, it's still not right to discourage people lah....I mean, dont u want the best for your friends? and hey, no one is too old for education. it is a brave move and take a lot of commitment, we should be 'tabik-ing' them and not stepping them down.

Serba Salah...

Well, I didn't have a title for that, but what I meant was recommending friends to your boss for a position in your company. Well, recently I've got a buddy whom I've been recommending endlessly to my boss. Few reasons..

1) my buddy's being racially discriminated in his current workplace and needs to get out FAST.

2) he was an ex-colleague, and a great colleague coz we used to skive all the time (hi 5!)

3) it ain't great here, but well, at least he's gonna get more than where he's at. and there's no price for racial discrimination. even if he gets the same salary, he'll be happy to leave anyways.

Somehow it got me a bit serba-salah too. it's his choice of course. But i dont want him to have a false impression and want him to really know what's he getting into. Hence, a series of prepping..and really explaining to every grit about the job so he'll know what to expect. You guys ever feel that way.

I know my friend J who introduced me to my previous job was serba salah as well coz it didnt pay well and the workload was crazy, but hey J, i did learn a lot, i think way lot more than where i'm at, so you can't put a price tag on education, so, hey no worries, kay. (if you're reading this, J...)

Indiana Me!

Didn't we all grew up with Indiana movies...I think I really had a crush on Indiana Jones, witty and smart and rugged. They did a series called The Chronicles of Indiana Jones that just didn't do it for me because it just didn't have Harrison Ford! Must the be influence of Star Wars added to that. All through Raiders of Lost Ark, TEmple of Doom, and THe Last Crusade....and the next one that i'm waiting for is the Kingdom of the Crystal Skull.

I did see a documentary last month about the Crystal Skull. Apparently it has some psychic power, and that when all the 8 (or 5, i can't remember) skulls are brought together, there is suppose to be some supernatural power. BUt make no mistake, the Crystal Skulls are real. And it didn't have any tool marks, which means...well, go figure.

Heart Forever

I hear the ticking of the clock

I'm lying here the room's pitch dark

I wonder where you are tonight

No answer on the telephone

And the night goes by so very slow

Oh I hope that it won't end though

Alone

Some songs are just better left as it is..... I heard Celine Dion's version of the Heart's "Alone" and although it was cool that the song was accompanied by the symphony, I still liked Heart's version better. The rock version. Celine's version lacked the emotion and passion that Heart poured into their version. It felt like Celine just did it for the sake of doing it. But Alone was one of the biggest hit ever, you really can't be nonchalant about that and sing it the way Celine did it, you're bound to be criticized because everyone remembers how Heart did it! Listen to Heart's original version and tell me what you think.

Miley Cyrus Vs Ashlee Simpson

They sound hauntingly almost the same, perhaps Miley winning by just a lil' bit with a better voice, but it really took me a while to figure out who sang that song 'See You Again". All this while I thought it was Ashlee Simpson's song since the radio deejays never make it a point to announce the name of song and singer like they used to. And then I heard Ashlee's "Pieces of Me" and gosh, they sound almost alike. But Miley is a bigger star - it's like Britney all over again, only I do think Miley/Ashlee/Stacci Oricco/Jojo well, they all sound the same to me.

The Pursuit of Happyness

There's no drama, and no over-the-top scenes, but heart-wrenching nevertheless. I think you just can feel the connection between man and son, and what the man was going through. And perhaps maybe one or two of us have felt the same way at some point in our lives. When you just wanna achieve so much, and even when you did, you're up against a series of disappointments and frustration. And you're just hinging on a sliver of hope. Now, haven't we all felt that before?

Will Smith gives a great protrayal in this movie. The movie felt real, and it wasn't decorated with a lot of shocking or dramatic scenes, but just real and raw feelings that would just bring you to tears. The chemistry between him and his son, Jaden in this movie only adds a genuine feel to the movie.

Love in The First Degree

This is a fun song. Back in the days when the lyrics didn't really matter and it was just good sounds and good fun. Bananarama was a favourite for me at that time anyways. The lyrics is kinda catchy but corny at the same time.

Last night, I was dreaming

I was locked in a prison cell

When I woke up,

I was screaming

Calling out your name (bridge 1)

And the judge and the jury

They all put the blame on me

They wouldn't go for my story

They wouldn't hear my plea (chorus)

Only you can set me free

'Cos I'm guilty (guilty)

Guilty as a girl can be

Come on baby can't you see

I stand accused of

love in the first degree

Guilty, of love in the first degree

Duffy- Mercy

When I first heard the song Mercy, I thought she was Amy Winehouse....but then, she sounded better than that nutcase. Then, I thought maybe it was an oldie, but then there were some modern rap thrown into the last bit of the song. So Duffy was a runner up for some British talent show, and wow, I think she has a unique voice, less whiny compared to Amy Winehouse and definitely sexier.

Definitely beats American Idol fellas I must say. Heard David Cook's version of Mariah's Always Be My Baby. It was cool but it just didnt really impress me. Reminded me of the time during Rockstar INXS when Marty Casey did Britney Spears Hit Me Baby One More Time. Now that's something to remember. Something to be wow-ed at.

Whatever happened to ROCKSTAR? American Idol's getting kinda boring really. The only one i'm rooting for is the bambi-eyed David Archuleta.

Being Selective.....

It sucks, but I'm slowly realizing that i'm becoming more and more selective in the conversations that i have with people these day...i think it has to do with age and that i'm finding it a waste of time and breath to converse with things and people that don't matter much to me. i know it's wrong...

i hardly talk to the china bosses in my office. 1) because i dont have to. 2) i can't speak proper mandarin and i can't understand mandarin fully plus they can't speak in english...so, i'm thinking, why even go there?

i dont chat with everyone like i used to. especially airheads and snots. there are just some people whom you just can't strike a conversation with. sometimes it's best to just listen, and comment when you want to.

i find myself listening a lot these days. sometimes commenting in my heart. i always used to be so opinionated and wanna have a say all the time. in time i realize that people dont always receive my comments well, it's either very blunt or unacceptable to their standards. i also realize that people don't really wanna hear any criticism, especially if it bruises their ego. and sometimes, all i have is criticism. and not everyone understands what i mean anyway, except for my twin who almost has the same kinda thinking as me.

there's just a vast difference in the way we think, and it's just more apparent with some people. even when we're talking about some topic, u could almost fill the empty void with a big elephant and they'll give u a look like which planet are u from? or the look that says that he/she thinks you're just plain weird. it has nothing to do with chinese ed kah, malay ed kah, or english ed. i think it has a lot to do with upbringing and the kinda environment that you're exposed to.

i dont really expect to have a long fruitful intellectually stimulating conversations... just having it being INTERESTING is good enough. it could be about nails, fashion, politics, economy etc....i don't really care. having an open mind really helps i think. so, i'm gonna have to get rid of this selectiveness disease!

Nepal vs Britain

read something interesting yesterday on Nepal vs Britain(The Star)...In a nutshell, the writer says that Britain is a coward and too chicken to do away with the royalty monarchy (the kings and queens and princesses and princes), unlike what Nepal is doing right now.

Good article there. I wonder if we can apply it here. Yar right...that will be the day! When's someone gonna do Nepal vs Malaysia????

Carbon Footprint

Eva was bugging me today about this. http://www.carbonfootprint.com/

Calculate how much CO2 u produce and then compensate it with the amount of trees u plant.

Latest hot fad by the London mayor.

Irritated

I'm irritated by smiley happy people. How can anyone be THAT happy all the time.

I'm irritated by people who don't wait for you to finish your sentence.

I'm irritated by the traffic jam especially when it's caused by the darn traffic police and kaypoh drivers who slowed down to watch the aftermath of any accidents.

I'm irritated by the fact that I'm smarter than my boss. So arrogant of me, but it's the farking truth. Or maybe i just have a problem with authority.

I'm irritated by the damn China women in my office who don't farking know how to take care of the toilets that we share! Geez. How can any female accomplish peeing all over the toilet, and leaving wet stains on the toilet seat AND the floor.

I'm irritated by shallow morons. Morons who think why the hell i wanna work, and that i'm at that marrying age. Hullo, leave me alone la.

I'm irritated by women who act pretty. If you are, you are. Declaring(shamelessly) to people you are a lenglui is so moronic.

Some Thoughts....

It's a fine line between narcissism and self-esteem or self-love. We should all love ourselves....but excessive vanity can be nauseating. Camwhoring for eg, is great....but when it's too much....erm, well, it really takes the beauty out of you.

self check...from www.dictionary.com, the meaning of narcissism...

Excessive love or admiration of oneself. See Synonyms at conceit.
1) A psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem.
2) Erotic pleasure derived from contemplation or admiration of one's own body or self, especially as a fixation on or a regression to an infantile stage of development.
3) The attribute of the human psyche charactized by admiration of oneself but within normal limits

are u either of those?escessive camwhoring. self-admiration. ego-centric. checking yourself out on the mirror too often?

Tot-Crazy

A good friend of mine, L, is a proud father of ONE last month....he was so happy and called up everyone to let us know the good news! And another friend is expecting......she can't wait to show me her baby bump.....! And another friend, A is glad that he's gonna be a father soon, gone are his wild days.... And WHo just called me last week and said he's gonna be a dad soon too!

What a worldwind of babies and tots....My dad and I are constantly following up on the 'developments' of my niece and nephew.....especially the 'latest addition', BOOKLET. Even if he just flipped over...or chuckled...can bring in a lot of oohs and aahs.

It's sickening though when people compare babies....or grandchilds.....Once and for all, my niece has small eyes but she's cute anyways. hahaha. And Booklet has beady eyes..ar..so?? People should really stop comparing babies; who crawl faster, who's fatter, who's smarter, who's more talkative, who has big ears, who has small eyes......etc.etc. Gosh, people can find ANYTHING to compare about if they want to. Talk about premature psychological damage!

I have a twin. but even WE didn't get it as bad as kids these days.

Lighten Up!

You know how everyone always define themselves by what they do? If anyone asked HI, and what do u do?, people always answer and say they are engineers or doctors or etc or that and they're here and everywhere...blablabla. The truth is that your occupation shouldnt define who you are. Some people find a lot of passion in what they do..and it doesnt necessarily have to be your work.

And so this brings me to my boss. Geez, everything that revolves around her life is work-related. You can't even have a normal conversation with her, non-work related conversations that is. At work, most of the time the rest of us are joking and talking as we are doing the endless boring paperwork. I must say that i've spent a lot of time chatting in my previous company too.

1) i get a lot of info- work-related and non-work related info.

2) it's always great to 'connect' with your colleagues, let's face it, we see them more than we see our family sometimes.(8 hours at , 2 hours going and coming from work, 8 hours of sleep and that leaves 6 hours of family time for you).

3) i really hate being confined to my cubicle. I used to have 2 tables in 2 different locations in my previous company and it was great....

4) it kills time.

The thing is that we really should lighten up at work, not to the extent of compromising the quality of your work, or the pride you take in your work, just that everything should be taken in a stride and just lighten up a bit. It'll make things much easier for you....remember, there's more to life than work!

Ching Ming

Sometimes I like this more than CNY. It's a ritual to go back to Ipoh every year around Apr-4th to 5th. Then we proceed to Kampar to my dad's grandfather's tomb then to his grandma. Last year and this year was just (last year andrew went with me) and my parents. Thereafter we usually head back to Ipoh for some great bites. Ahhhhhhhh, Ipoh is the love of my life.

The next day is usually a drive to Teluk Intan to visit my grandma, granddad, granduncle and grandauntie, their tombs are just side by side. It's usually chaotic, because it's a reunion for us cousins and my mom and her cousins. Chaos. Laughter. And a feast of course. Usually we are sitting there eating eats from Kampar, Teluk Intan, Bidor.

Well this year's a bit different, I actually got to visit my mom's grandfather's grave. It's a Hainanese rule that women in our family are not allowed to visit his grave...somehow, my very open-minded late grandmother abolished that rule a long time ago.

And of course, usually this time, my mom's side loves to tell stories. It used to by my late uncle's job until he passed away few years back. Everyone took turns telling stories under the hot blazing sun. My cousin and I were fidgetting endlessly trying to avoid the sun. It was a good time for me to catch up with my little cousin who used to stay with me a long time ago.

Then after that, we usually head to Fun's place. Fun and family is a close family friend of ours. She and the brother used to stay with us in Ipoh. I swear when i was a kid, i thought they were my cousins....1st because they stayed with us, 2nd because no one bothered to explain to me and my twin sis anyway since we were only kids. She stayed with us when i was much older during her chambering stint. Only then did i know the truth. Hahahaha.

Well, it's chee cheong fun time at her place. Her family's the Anson Chee Cheong Fun fellas, so we usually book and feasted on 40 pieces yesterday. It used to be 100pcs, but there weren't many ppl left now (the young ones have gone overseas, and the old ones have left us).

I dunno, I love ching ming. I can't understand why some christians do not believe in ching ming, avoid the joss-sticks, and not feast on the food we used for prayers. I think it's great to attend anyway to pay your respects. we can believe in the whims of Santa Claus, and magic , why not this. :) Happy ching ming everyone.

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