Had a nice coffee session with my buddy of 22 years last night. She's always been the ambitious one. Well, last night she was back from US for a week or so and was happily sharing and updating each other. She was telling me that she was having problems talking to a guy that she likes. Nervous and somewhat not being herself. That later spun to a more complicated web. She said it all boils down to having low self esteem. I found that hard to believe only because she's a high achiever, with a Masters in Civil Engineering, she's pretty...cute and petite, and is working permanently in Philadelphia, and with a great personality to boot. Good thing about her is that she's trying her best to break out of that mould, building up her confidence and I guess you have to be your own motivator in this case. Having friends to boost your confidence does help, just to give a little push and a word of encouragement. Friends who do know of people with low self-esteem, please try not to 'ejek' them so much, or 'pijak' them when they are at their happiest, or give negative feedback when they wanna do something. It's the least we can do. I do think that a little bit of self-pampering does help, when you feel good, you feel good about your own self. Go for a manicure/pedicure or massage/spa once in a while. Indulge. Little by little, you can break out of that mould.