Friday, September 29, 2006

Bf/Gf Misconception

I was rather baffled to read of another's blogger article on what she perceives her relationship with the bf is. Friends query why she puts him as 1st priority, and she admits she does and finds nothing wrong with it. If someone told me that I was 'losing myself" I would say it calls for a reality check. To be so clingy to her bf, which she finds defensively there's nothing wrong, friends would of course ask what happens if they broke up. In her defense she says that she shouldn't think of what might happen- I mean, migod, how naive can you get. The whole article is a reflection of the kind of woman I do not want to be. It's good to have a stand, but if you're standing up for a right to be naive and to be a 'oh-mi-god-my-bf-is-my-life" woman, you're pathetic and you don't even know it. I think independent woman of today should strike a balance between career and love. Stop making your boyfriend's life your life. (by request, you can ask me for url of the article )

5 comments:

toniXe said...

dats a desperado lah .

J said...

Hrrhm....
I think I know which blogger's post you are talking about.

The funny thing is that I got something totally different out of reading if - I thought it was more on the societal double standards.
(Ie. If guy is devoted to gf then *gasp* he is such a good guy and the girl is so lucky VS. If the girl is devoted to the guy then *tsk tsk* she is losing herself because she is so weak....)

How come we are understanding different messages from the same words?
Haha.
Strange.

tihtahpah said...

Well..actually, men who are dedicated to his gf doesnt make me gasp. we have a nickname for men like that. WH4. and women who are dedicated to her bf, WL4. I'm sorry, its a rather backward culture. i think it's a rather screwed-up view of how relationships should be like. one should make him/her and the bf/gf an island.

JT said...

Though I agreed that women should create a more balance life but nowadays, I'm seeing a different direction where the bf is force to make the gf life his life (which is why I'm still single todate).

tihtahpah said...

well either way, I think we should never lose ourselves...our personality and our principles.

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