Women Who Act Cute Oughta be Fried

In one of my very first post Please Stop The Cute Fad back in April'06 was about the kawaii culture. Unfortunately I'm still seeing this phenomenon right now. Please just stay away from me. I really do not how to respond to whether the Hello Kitty raincoat is cute or not, or whether to buy the Doraemon toothbrush or not, to me Hello Kitty is a money making industry that has became a fad, big kudos to the creators.... Hello Kitty is like Gucci or Prada to me...just a brand name. And please refrain from talking to me in cute baby voice. First of all, it's not cute. It's not cute if you're freaking 20+ and you're trying to pass off as some cute bitch. Second of all, don't waste the effort on me, I'm not a guy, I dont give a fark. And lastly, I can't converse if I can't farking hear ur voice. And I don't care if I don't have cute jangly cute stuff on my phone. A phone's a freaking phone! Just to do calls and msgs! And I don't care if I dont have a freaking fringe like baby dolls because you Ah Lians think it's freaking cute...because it's my freaking hair! And I dont give a fark that you might think I dress frumpily because at least I'm not like some oversized giant doll trapped in a 30-year-old bitch with cellulite and wrinkles exposed in ur netted pantyhose..and you still think you're a freaking cute goddess! Just stay away from me.....far far away.

FFK-ers

I think all of us have at one point or another FFK-ed or being FFK-ed by. But why do we FFK? Or better yet, why did we commit to an appointment in the first place if we were gonna FFK anyhow? In those instances perhaps due to 'unforeseen circumstances', FFK cannot be helped. But here are some of the reasons me and Kye came up with....

1) FFK-er decided to ditch last minute because the crowd was too small. Some people are not comfortable doing a one-on-one or they prefer bigger crowds. Alamak....

2) Somebody ajak-ed FFK-er to a better outing. Maybe it was with a better crowd, more pretty/handsome fellas, free lunch/dinner....

3) FFK-er was 'detained' by the gf/bf. In another words, ' cannot get passport!!!'

4) FFK-er is just too lazy. Lazy to drive. Lazy to dress up. Lazy to 'layan'. Lazy to chat.

And here's a list of famous FFK liners...

1) Got something to do/Something came up last minute/Can't make it- either by phone or sms.

2) Tomorrow need to work, too late already. (lame-o, why did u agree to the agreed time and date in the 1st place)

3) Cannot get passport ( hahhaa..understood, this actually can't be helped...)

And etc.......But some FFK-ers have valid reasons to FFK .....but then some can be really good at 'actin', cooking up a fantastic cock&bull story, bluffing their way through.... Either way, I think FFK is inevitable, but it shouldn't jeopardize other people's schedule or plans. If you really need to FFK, please FFK 'awal-awal'. Don't ffk when the fella is already waiting for you in some cacat kopitiam... And try not to FFK with an sms....give the fella a call, have a bit of courtesy :)

Another Man's Wrath

Anger burst right out of my fucking mouth,

My stress and tension makes my adrenaline pumping north and south,

I can't wait to rip off my problems be free and this is my serious oath,

I bet you will never understand the heart of a young spoilt brat that's me like it or not!!!

Great warriors will have splendour motivation in every fights,

I adopt their enthusiasm to cheer myself up every single night,

No one could lift me up as i've fallen into the darkest hole i'm afraid i might,

Nothing in the world could compensate coz without dollars and cents i will be in freaking fright!

-Guest Writer KennyL

To That Ignorant Little Shit

Here's to that ignorant little shit I met,

Yeah you, the one who fought relentlessly that,

Knocking On Heaven's Door was written by Guns N Roses,

You fool, coz everyone knows Dylan own that song.

But then again u thought that Kenny Rogers did Lyin' Eyes!

Oh u ignorant little shit,

Feel like giving u a hard kick,

Telling me you don't even know Mr Chin Peng,

Your goddamn roots, you little shit,

For god's sake go read the farking newspapers ,

It's only RM1.20, or the Sun for some headliners.

Because it really makes me go bonkers,

When you think you're right when you're actually not!!!!! - SZER

- haha...harmless little poem for laughs...

Friendships without Boundaries

I was just telling a friend the other day that some of my friends diss me for the people I hang out with. They would always refuse to meet my certain friends for they think sorry to say that these people are not good enough to hang out with them. It could be that they didn't have a degree, they don't have a goddamn career, they don't project a certain image of prestige or coolness, etc. I think these people build too many walls around them and one day, the walls will surround them and they'll be trapped in loneliness. Who are we to judge people. Who gave us the right to say that that person is WORTHY or UNWORTHY to be our friends? I have friends from all walks of life and truly they have taught me a lot, young or old, rich or poor, english ed or chinese ed....Imagine if I had friends only from the car industry plus have to narrow down to only people with degree, I think I'll be farking bored. Having said that, I'm not saying that we have to go around start making friends with criminals and rapists...but that to make friends with an open mind. That fella with a fancy car and boasts of an MBA degree could be a lying crook or serial rapist for all you know. The thing is that you wouldn't get to know WHO that person is unless you give it a chance. Sometimes you've just gotta let your guards down and let it all go. You might just chance upon some great friendships along the way......

Controlling My Rage

It's been hell of a new year. Kena snatch thief, bonus got 'postponed', lost my office keys (had to climb out to the windows one night coz colleagues forgot I dont have keys), etc. Worse thing about losing your wallet is going through the whole ordeal of doing the goddamn documents again. Here's just some of the instances where I totally lost it...

1) License: The customer service fella, this girl, she spoke so softly that I had to tell her 3 times to speak up...Alamak, the place (JPJ in Jln Sultan) was noisy enough and I was waiting for 2 hours already for my turn. Then coz of some technicalities she sent me to the Kaunter Pertanyaan. The fella at the Kaunter Pertanyaan asked me why I was there. I told him, " you tanya saya, saya tanya siapa?". Talk about dumb farks.

2) Bank Bumiputra (CIMBBank): The lady at the counter refused to entertain me since I didn't fill up the form. I didn't know I had to get the Report Kehilangan ATM Kad form - it's not exactly a std form alright... When I eventually filled up the form, she told me that I have to bring my passbook. After waiting for 2 hours...she tells me that.. $*&(*^(*&(. I asked her if it was really freaking necessary to bring a passbook to get an ATM replacement card. Only when questioned she finally said it's not really necessary. After 30 mins of trying to process the new card, she couldnt do it. I told her to get help from her manager but she didn't 'layan' me or look at me. Finally I had it, and screw up her supervisor and told her that I shouldnt have to wait around because of her blunder. After that, the other teller processed mine in 5 minutes.

3) At the police station: Reporting my case...I went to 3 police stations- Pondok Polis Sri Petaling, the policeman was overfriendly and I had to stop him from his 'storytelling' coz I had to move on to Brickfields police station to do up the report. I carried the report and went there. Waited at Brickfield for another hour and then met the Sergeant. Sergeant asked the same questions, even asked what was the market price of my fren's hp that got stolen (WTF) and then wrote the same freaking report. Went to the Old Klang Road police station to collect the RM2 report that was the SAME as the report done at Pondok Polis Sri Petaling. ARgh... $#$#^R^%. A whole ordeal of 6 hours for the same piece of shit!

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH..............................................

I Want To Break Free

I just went to Ambank. Did my last EVER car loan payment...woohoo. It's quite a feeling that I can't describe. I'm proud to say (even with the condition my car is in) that I have independently paid for the car and am now fully debt-free for the car at least. After paying for nearly 4 years, I'm finally over and done with the monthly payment. I feel slightly richer even....haha. To be debt-free again. Although for most Malaysians, we ALWAYS have some sort of payment to do. Next for me would be the housing loan of course.... what to do...need a shelter somewhere right? The excess money, well, I'm gonna be putting it in a TRAVEL FUND....what is the use of saving if you don't indulge a bit huh? And yeah, I'm not going to get a new car, or a new car stereo system, or a laptop or a brand new dress, or an iPHONE , because all that is just materials to me...I can very well do without it. Playing with a brand new laptop is not gonna give me self-enhancement or knowledge. Would rather spend the excess money on some good massage or a grand meal :) with my family or belanja my buddies on a good round of Kilkenny's. Coz what are good times without a good company? I know many of my friends are unfortunately bogged with plenty of debts.....that it seems neverending. But do not let it deter you...but instead motivate you as u settle them one by one, you are actually one step closer to being debt-free.

Art At Its Best.....

Bless the French Rugby Team....:)

Carpe Scrotum

I will not....

Let emotions control me,

Let anger and frustrations get me,

Let debts hover me,

Let credit cards overload me,

Let criticism deter me,

Let failure set me back,

Let disappointments pull me down,

Let idiots infuriate me,

Let insecurity and doubt tear me down,

Let misery hold me back,

Let my enemies have their day,

Of seeing me in dire straits,

Let negative thoughts invade my mind,

Let poor increment demotivate me,

For it is up to me,

To determine my destiny,

So Carpe Scrotum......!

Taking The Plunge

Was having a conversation with a friend just a few days back and he related to me how he saved money and struggle through to get his MBA degree. His next target is PhD and that's not surprising because he's very ambitious. But I can't help but think that his purpose was more for prestige and perhaps for a more lucrative income. He encouraged me to take it up saying that if I don't, there would probably be a considerable gap between us intellectually. And so well, I do applaud his great initiative and effort but I'm not the kind of person who would take up a degree just so that I look good or for prestige. Have we all 'terpesong sikit' from the real objective? Not having a degree/postgraduate degree does not make a person any less smarter. We cannot deny that having a degree/postgraduate degree does come into play when it comes to determining our salary and subsequently our future even....but do we not also strive for the sake of knowledge too? Self enhancement and there's gotta be some sort of passion for whatever degree you are taking? I see a vast difference between this guy and another guy I know who is really passionate about his studies, he practically eats and breathes it- and now this guy, I can truly visualize him as a Professor. So, if you wanna take the plunge and invest on some degree, great but don't do it for the sake of joining the rat race. Knowledge is power, but let's not abuse it.

Taking Matters with a Shrug

Sometimes we do take things too seriously. Sometimes we get worked up over a silly thing. Sometimes we fark someone up just because he/she made a small mistake. Sometimes we hold a grudge and months later could not even remember what the issue was in the first place. Sometimes we find it hard to just forgive and forget. Sometimes we get depressed and we enter a black hole that we can no longer be saved. Sometimes we get frustrated when our love is unreturned. Sometimes we get angry because we got robbed by a snatch thief and think what the hell is the police doing. Sometimes we get impatient at the waiting line of a long queue. Sometimes we get worked up when we got into an accident and worry over the aftermath.. I think we've all gotta sometimes sit back and shrug it off and just take it as bad luck but that things will get better. See the positive side or make the best out of it. Because...it's just MORE exhausting to worry and fret over it. Things just get settled more easily when you're NOT worked up and calm. I and some friends had a bad start for the NEW YEAR but seriously, I think that I probably wouldn't have handled it better without my family's and friends' support. Thanks guys!

The Search Is Over

(Pic of my mom and niece in slumber)..I dunno how many times I've sit through conversations of people trying to find the meaning of life....but I realize that life is not meaningful unless YOU make it meaningful. So Carpe Diem, all the time we wasted on questioning life could have been used to make our life more meaningful.

Innocent and Trouble-Free

Captured some nice shots of some kids at my niece's birthday party in Singapore. The kids were running round and round the hall but ever eager to strike a pose for me when I stopped them. While an adult's face is always masked by layers of emotion and wrinkled with experience, a child's expression is often pure and unpretentious. And some just have that blur look :)

Another Man's View- Career Woman

Career is something which everyone is chasing for regardless of man or woman in today's era. Forget about old saying that woman need to marry early, stayat home to cook or take care of children and etc.There's imacable changes over times and marvellouswork done by what we called superwoman in today'scorporate world. In fact I got this topic out when I started my new job at an Executive search company in which woman outnumbered man and things here will be different to my experience for a period of time I guess. But what have in fact choke my expectation, most woman here are professionals and they speak english fluently. The way they complete their tasks promptly and the way they speak to client is just simply marvellous. I guess it'll be much fun to be under a woman's guidance for the first time. I believe this company have somehow or rather a friendly, open environment which make my adrenaline feel warm and pumping soothingly. Hope things will get better herewith all superwoman around! Cheers!- My Guest Writer- KennyL

The Gentleman

Malaysian seems to have lost any sense of common courtesy. More often than not you find yourself being pushed around in the overcrowded bus. You may have been rudely served at the fast food joint, or ignored, or dissed at (because you wear ciplak slippers and shabby clothes). You may have once or twice expected your fellow colleague or friend to help you with files or just to open the door for you, only to have the fella rushing off quickly even before you get to the door. You may have found yourself in situations where you were 'fingered' on the road just because you were on the fast lane for a tad bit trying to overtake a Kancil. You may have even been shouted at at the general hospitals or govt offices because you didn't get the forms right (for fark's sake, it can be quite complicated). And so, any act of courtesy or indication you're a slight gentleman is greatly appreciated! Just the other day, a friend of mine actually told me to sit down while he got coffee for us (alamak, some men nowadays like to toss some money to women and ask women to order stuff while the men sit back and smoke or read newspapers). After the whole coffee session, he even walked me to the parking lot, I can almost count the number of guys who's actually done that for me- less than 10 maybe. Some would even go to great lengths to check if you've safely reached home. HAH and so, guys if you wanna score points, just practice common courtesy and be a great gentleman. It's so rare these days. Women love that immediately when they spot a gentleman :)

Of New Year Resolutions and etc...

Most people probably took Dec31st to make their resolutions this year...Me, I was doing some reflection and based on that I've decided on a few things that I probably wouldn't want to do anymore.

I will not attend another meaningless gathering of any sort anymore. I'm at that age where I've accumulated a number of friends/acquaintances/good friends/hi-bye friends/friends of friends enough to have those rather often that not meaningless gatherings that can somewhat be awkward and strange. You ever been in a room full of old buddies and yet feel like a stranger? Sometimes I feel like I'm just an observer and watching their antics. Sometimes I diss myself for sitting there and scrutinizing the way they think or what they say. Then there are those who only use you as fillers...to pass time when the person is in between appointments. Then there are those who meets u up for coffee not to SHARE or just plainly having a chillout time, but more so to boast, compare, or another self-indulgent session. This new year, I find myself in a few situations with perhaps some of the best buddies a girl could ever have and in moments of silence we were there for each other while one was in despair. There is never such a thing as uncomfortable silence with good buddies, you only feel that with so-called friends. Perhaps it's really time to re-evaluate some relationships...maybe we are all clinging on to meaningless relationships...

If you're hanging out with negative friends...then maybe you're gonna have to starting making the sessions positive, but only with worthwhile friends. If you're holding on to a dead-end relationship, then perhaps you're better off being single.... I really think it's an act of cleaning up your life. START CLEANING.....

The Top Ten Malaysian Phenomenon- Of Any Kind

1. Insurgence of Oldtown Kopitiam- it's everywhere-makes me feel like I never left Ipoh :)

2. TV Series & Reality TV Show Craze- 24, Grey's Anatomy, Prison Break.....

3. Mahathir/Badawi spat- that was kinda entertaining for a while there hahaha

4. Blogging- I think at its peak here in Malaysia, many new bloggers :)

5. Super Skinny-Stick women -Hongky/Taiwanese wannabes

6. Gym fad- I believe there's one gym in every major mall in KL- next one is Celebrity Fitness in Bangsar Village

7. Travel Bugs Galore- thanks to Air Asia, Tiger Airways etc travelling is affordable and everyone can fly nowadays...thumbs up!

8. Metrosexuals on the rage- Glad to see many guys who now take pains to look good, gay or not gay I think it's rather commendable :)

9. Plentiful China- this year we see a lot of people moving/expanding/finding business there, but then again you also see many China women moving/expanding/finding business here too :)

10. Organic Food Fest- everyone's apparently getting more health-conscious, even my mom's starting to consume organic stuff....and it's more affordable now compared to years ago.

Ohyea..this year was a really good year, for me anyways, my prediction for next year's next craze are SexFest, EatTrips, Bookworms, Vegans, Plastic Surgery and Post Graduate Degrees and Upper :) What say you?

Fitting In

How many of you actually tried to change yourself to conform to society's general perception just to be acceptable? I think we all went through that 'mode' when we were little kids trying to clinch a clique/gang just so we are labelled as 'acceptable". We might have played some silly game, shunned the others whom the 'gang leader' has labelled as 'losers' or 'unacceptable'. It is the cowards' fault who allows the 'gang leader' to have so much power. Even as we get older, that sort of 'practise' still prevails. You try to stay true to yourself but then when you're in your teens you don't wanna have lonely Friday nights, and so you force yourself to indulge in what the 'gang' wants to do- be it shopping, disco-prancing, etc. But deep inside you know you don't fit in at all. But if you really think deeply, maybe it's the 'gang' that doesn't fit you. The truth is that even when you are older, in your 20s and 30s, you can never win to fit in any clique if you don't know what's your niche. What moves you? What inspires you? What are your desires? Those little things make you what you are and what your personality is. If we do not even recognize our ownself, how do you expect others to do so? If by trying to fit in I lose myself, I'll rather be alone. If by trying to fit in, I always have to accomodating to the gang's needs or the gang's every whim and fancy, I'll rather be rotting at home man. As opposed to fitting in, one can always have a good time by oneself. What's wrong with just reading a book once in a while? Watching a movie alone once in a while? Enjoying simple pleasures like cooking for oneself? Go for a massage once in a while? The thing is that if we are constantly looking for a gang to fit in, we will always be alone.

Patience................

Have not always been a patient person. I am get agitated, aggravated, irritated, annoyed...with about almost everything! I know it's not a healthy thing but I just can't help it. I can't stand waiting. I hate waiting in line for anything....stamps, pay bills, for movie tickets, for toilet (it's really frustrating when you REALLY need to go, definitely top on my list)

I can't stand soft spoken people. It really gets to me. Especially the girls who think that they can pass off as being demure and cute in the hopes of winning guys....cute my ass! And what's the deal with soft-spoken guys, serves no whatsoever purpose. And what about people who mumbles? Or talk to themselves? Like those bank tellers or cashiers who don't look at you when they are speaking to you.

I can't stand naggy aunties. The repetitive ones..the ones who wants to know EVERYTHING about what you do, who you seeing with. It's okay if them come over to visit my mom but leave me out of their little tea party!

I can't stand the Malaysian standard public toilet. Aside from its grotesque features, it's always out of toilet paper and WET!!!..seriously they should have separate toilets for the Malay women. They may like their toilets damp but i DONT!!

I have no patience for people who are late. I mean, the fella could be living like 5 mins away from the meeting place and could still be freaking 1 hour late! People should learn to respect other people's time is just as important as theirs.

My list of I-Can't-Stand-This goes on and on. I should really learn to be patient....but life is short, I should exercise my freedom of expressing my dislikes...and discomfort! At least channeling my frustration to this journal is better than me taking it out on one of those aunties or those tight-mouth bitches, right? That wouldn't be right now, would it?

Love Is A Many Splendoured Things

Hah..love...what can you say about love..love is a many splendoured things as Nat King Cole put it. Love is a great many things. It carries with it so much burden and joy: frustrations, desperation, expectations, depression, agony..and the list goes on and on.And nobody says love is limited to only intimate relationship between a man and a woman. I see love everywhere, no restrictions.

Family- This must be the greatest love of all..but it is the most taken for granted by most people because its the one kind that you can count on..definitely. How many people would go up to their dad/mom and say I love u? It is the most silent form of love. Sisterly and brotherly love -its like a form of unity...you may not be able to share everything with your siblings, but well 70% is good enough..the other 30% (comprises of naughty things you've done that would be considered taboo, for ur family anyway) better left unshared.

Mother and a child- I never really thought of this until my sister was pregnant. She looks beaming with joy..its a really indescribable feeling, something only us observers could only hope to feel. Everything revolves around that tiny mass in her womb. To her..watching her tummy grow is the most amazing and fulfilling kind of love...that nobody can take away.

Man & Woman- Why this is the most sung of type of love! seriously..i dunno what the music or the movies industry would do without the existence of this love. Everyone approaches it differently. Its the kind of love when you're the most unsure of. Should i tell him/her now, or later? Am I ready? When should i take the next big step to marriage? How to maintain the relationship? Am I good enough for him/her? Are we really compatible? It could be the most amazing kind when you've found the ONE. Many disputes on who is the ONE, but ask yourself, do you not know/feel when you've found him/her? Everything would seems so right... I believe there is a flicker of hope still. Just keep searching and rummaging through the piles of bastards and bitches you meet. :)

Man & Wife- Ain't this like the most comfortable stage to be in? If its not, then you should rethink your marriage vows. This love strong as it may be, carries with it responsiblity and commitment. Simple things like who to do the accounts, who to do the grocery, who to pay the bills, who to cook, who to clean the house...all play a part in the responsibility. And commitment- well, you can't look at another woman/man quite the same way. So out with the flirting, ONS, casual sex, courting...all that goes out of the marriage window, and you're left with the only person you are to grow old with.

Friendship- This is treasure to me, more than any gold in the world. Even despite being involved in a relationship some time ago, I never forgotten about friendship. Its what that has helped me through the many weak moments of my life. Through sickness, breakups, failures, disappointments, sorrow, my friends stood by me. Sometimes just to listen, sometimes just to while the time away, plainly to be there for u. The only thing that gets to me is how easily friends come and go in your life. One minute you guys are best buddies, and the next minute, you're thinking of an excuse to not meet this friend! Perhaps the friendship never had a 'solid' foundation anyway. I tend to keep the friends I love close- be it a phone call, a simple email, an sms, a simple hi. But it hurts sometimes when you realize that you may value the friendship more than the other party.

Well, the search for the ultimate love some might say is bollocks! Which one person can give you all this, 5 in1? A husband? A wife? I say, spread the love ! It's everywhere. Appreciate what's around you. You'll never know when it's gone.

Stop Pimping Christmas

I'm not a Christian but I'm just as appalled as any at the commercialization of Christmas that I see here. These are the list of things that I think we can do without next Christmas:

1) Fake Christmas trees with lollypops and candies as ornaments with big gingerbread house( hint: Mid Valley should revamp their interior decoration ideas) . I'm really not amused.

2) Overpriced Christmas eve dinners- nothing beats homecooked Christmas dinners. Youngsters today should really make the effort to cook dinner- you guys are taking away the essence of Christmas meals.

3) Malls should be closed- seriously, close 'em all. It's weird that we are seeing so many people loitering at the malls on Christmas Day. Malls are like the brothels for commercial ugliness.

4) Hope to see more Christmas shows/presentations that are actually beneficial- fundraising type with minimal idiots dressed up as Santarinas and Santas. Sometimes the amount of effort to pimp oneself for a show can be better used for helping out in relief efforts.

Make your every Christmas a meaningful one.

Xmas Births and Deaths

This Christmas we see the death of the Godfather of Soul- James Brown, his song, I Feel Good would forever ring in our minds....And so, on a rather grim note, here's a list of Xmas Births and Deaths of Famous People :)
Births: Sir Isaac Newton (1642), Annie Lennox(1954), Robert Ripley(1893)
Deaths: Charlie Chaplin(1977), Dean Martin(1995), Adrian I Pope (795)

and so, to commemerate James Brown, here's an excerpt from I FEEL GOOD, hope everyone's feeling that this Christmas.

Wo! I feel good,

I knew that I would now I feel good,

I knew that I wouldn't of

So good, so good, I got you

Wo! I feel nice,

like sugar and spice I feel nice,

like sugar and spice

So nice, so nice, I got you

Fairytales should be BANNED

Just the other day, out of boredom, I was reading my little niece's fairytale book and I've discovered that there are some serious morale issues that ought to be reviewed. Here's some example:

1) Princess and the Frog: If you recall, the princess asked for the frog's help to retrieve her golden ball, and in return the Frog stayed with her and she was to accompany him. However, throughout the stay, she ignored him and only agreed to kiss the frog so that he'll be out of her hair. When the frog became the handsome prince though, she quickly change her view and married him. EH, isn't that a bit too superficial? If I was the frog, I'll look for some other princess. In real life, the princess would be what we call a bitch.

2) Rumpelstiltskin: The queen promised Rumpelstiltskin her child if he could help her spin straw into gold. Well, first of all, that was quite a misjudgment to promise such a thing you know you can't grant. Then the queen find ways to rectify it by spying on Rumpelstiltskin- ain't a promise a promise? What happened to "man of my words"?

3) Rapunzel: If you read carefully, when Rapunzel and the Prince met, she'll draw him up the tower using her braids even though she hardly knew the guy. And when the witch found out about it, she threw Rapunzel to the wilderness. The prince was also in despair when he was hauled up only to find the witch in the tower and became blind and they were both separated. AND YET, Rapunzel got PREGNANT with twins. When did you think the twins were conceived? I would say they were doing naughty naughty things up at the tower.

I'm not so sure about reading fairytales to my little niece. If she's smart, she might as you the unthinkable questions such as these.....and when she does, I might be really morally challenged :)

Lending An Ear

Yesterday was a rather impromptu gathering, just me and 3 others catching up. 2 guys just got married with both wives pregnant alreadyWe had dinner and adjourned to this nice cafe behind New Paris SS2- LilyCenario. Over a cup of coffee I listened as they shared their experiences, what they were up to. It's funny that none of us were doing anything remotely related to each other's industry. One's a land surveyor, another a businessman and another EE engineer and then there's me. It didn't really matter if we understood what we were all doing, as we spoke of encounters at work.... My friend spoke of tactical strategies he learnt whilst managing his business- much too business shit for me to understand but hey he just wanted to vent it out. Get it off his already crowded mind. Everyone had their turn to vent. Gatherings aren't just meaningless chatter, sometimes it's for comfort and reassurance. There's only so much tv or alcohol can do. Sometimes you just need to let it all out. And what good friends do is that they don't judge you, not necessarily required to give any suggestion or advise, they give an occasional nod, spend a good 2-3 hours lending an ear. So, lend an ear today, you don't have to response, just be an attentive listener. To people who matters the most.

Mengada-ngada!

"No, I don't sit in a table near the toilet in the restaurant."

"No, I don't drink 3-in-1 coffee, I always take brewed coffee with a dash of low fat milk."

"No, I don't sleep in motels and inns, it's either 5 star hotel or nothing else."

"No, I'm not interested in meeting guys who make less than me, or guys who drive small cars."

"No, I don't "organize" parties, I just attend them...and please give me 1 month notice."

"No, it's not my nature to be too early, I make it a point to come later so that I don't have to waste my time waiting for people to slowly trickle in."

"No, I don't ever pay for my drinks, guys always pick up the tab. So don't even think I'm gonna start paying my share."

"No, I don't like chatting at the mamak or kopitiam, it's too hot and I need air-conditioning."

"No, I don't do Klang or Shah Alam or anywhere out of KL. It's too shabby and low class for me."

"No, I don't frequent pasar malam and I don't think I ever would. "

"No, I hang out with only Chinese-ed/English-ed people."

Just a collection of some 'mengada-ngada' shit I've encountered....... I hope this people are listening to themselves when they say these kinda things.

Career Choices-

Had some serious talk last night with my friends on their career choices at SOMO (thumbs up). One was deciding which job offer to take up, a commercialized job cum long working hours cum drinking-like-a-fish unlimited sessions or a stable eye-opener cum good salary cum professional MNC fish. Another one was still contemplating after 1 year whether to continue slaving in the father's company with minimal pay with no financial freedom or to slave for others-putting himself out there in the working class market again. Not that I'm in any favourable position to advice but this is what I think. Know what you want and stay focused. Ultimately you want to be reaching YOUR goals. The rest are just accessories. Assess your strengths and weaknesses, if the new job helps you to enhance your strengths, go for it. If the new job helps you to overcome the weaknesses, go for it. But always it has to be in line with your career goals. Told my other friend to get it together, stop procrastinating and start taking charge of his life. 1 year is like a trial and error session. If it's not working out, move on. Coming into a family business without prior substantial experience you'll find yourself trapped in the china-man ways of running a business. What with globalization, global sourcing, infomedia, IT, the world is getting smaller and smaller- we have to mould ourselves to take advantage of that situation and not swerve away from it with closeminded chinaman thinking. Survival of the fittest- it gets harder and harder not unless you make it work for you.

Sampling Places

SHIOK- CINELEISURE, Mutiara Damansara- It's a new eatery with Asian delicacy. My best friend's family business and I was invited to try their menu ( for free, thanks Wenny) on their 3rd day in business. Had Asam Laksa, great soup, and Roti Phrata with Chicken Curry (excuse the gluttony :)) only because I didn't know what Roti Phrata. But what a delight it was, something different than your regular Roti Chanai. Price is reasonable and it is the place to go for a quick bite before you catch a movie upstairs.

SOMO- Mont Kiara- New terrace bar place just a little further from Plaza Mont Kiara, just next to Coffee Bean. Was glad that the music wasn't that loud that we could actually lounge and enjoy our beer without having to shout at each other. The ambience definitely helps with the changing lights on the bar table. Everything else is pretty much so-so but it's a good place to lounge for regular people who just wanna have a nice chat over beer.

Getting Out of the Trap

Tupac Shakur- 2Pacalypse Now Album- Trapped

You know they got me trapped in this prison of seclusion

Happiness, living on tha streets is a delusion

Even a smooth criminal one day must get caught

Shot up or shot down with tha bullet that he bought

Nine millimeter kickin' thinking about what tha streets do to me

Cause they never talk peace in tha black community

All we know is violence, do tha job in silence

Walk tha city streets like a rat pack of tyrants

Too many brothers daily heading for tha big penn

Niggas commin' out worse offthan when they went in

Over tha years I done alot of growin' up

Getten drunk thrown' up Cuffed up

Then I said I had enough

There must be another route, way out to money and fame,

I changed my name and played a different game

Tired of being trapped in this vicious cycle

If one more cop harrasses me I just might go psycho

And when I gettem I'll hittem with tha bum rush

Only a lunatic would like to see his skull crushed

Yo, if your smart you'll really let me go 'G'

But keep me cooped up in this ghetto and catch tha uzi

They got me trapped....

I knew there was a way out. I knew there was another kind of life because I had read about it. I knew there were other places, and there was another way of being." Oprah Winfrey

(excuse the weird post, it was inspired by a conversation with Gallivanter)

WHY PERODUA IS NO BETTER......

Perodua is better than Proton, but the people who work there are the problem. Let me give you an overview of the ordeal I go through every week there. Just today, I arrived at 3pm at the HQ in Rawang. It was basically to rework some pre-production parts for a new model. I had everything planned out and was planning to leave by 4pm. But no. First I had to explain all over again despite the 1 hour meeting I had the day before. Then I had to tell them that Perodua R&D engineer is not involved in this and would not be able to verify it. But no. We had to wait around for them to concur. And true enough, I was right. 1 hour later, I was asked to wait outside the 'secret project room' in the fcking streets while they discussed. 30mins later, they came out and I found myself asking them when can I fcking do the rework. Had to wait another 3omins, and finally I clocked out of there at 6pm. Sheesh. Problem with Perodua is that they are too cautious that they do not know what to do! All the time wasted on meaningless inconclusive discussions with the wrong people! All the time wasted on time consuming discussions when I keep telling them on site verification on actual part is the best solution. But hell, I'm just a smurfy vendor to them....And believe me, Perodua people are the hustlers in the local automotive industry. Cigarettes, karaoke, digicam u name it! Being the No. 1 customer, they speak in a tone that makes you feel like you're a good for nothing supplier. But hey, customer is always No. 1. But I think when I do quit, I'm gonna go against all odds and give them a real BIG piece of my mind. I've done that a couple of times with GREAT CONSEQUENCES. So for now, I think I've gotta hold my temper.

Reevaluating Yourself

We're really good at work about doing things right, doing a 6 month trend analysis against our Key Performance Index, ensuring that we meet customer satisfaction by practise of PDCA cycle and laying out the Company's Objectives and Policy. It's funny that although these are great tools, not all of us apply it in our daily lives. Do you have your goals- short term and long term? 3-year or 5-year plan? Do you sit down and really do a reflection on your life, or even just on your actions the day before? Do you actually think of ways to better yourself? I always think that work is just work, it's just a tool to getting you what you really want. And sometimes work can be so meaningless- does it do anything to help mankind? Will kids suffer less by that little meeting you just had at work with your peers? What about friends you don't see enough these days because you are too busy at work? MAKE TIME. When was the last time you had a meal with your parents? When was the last time you actually had a good walk and stop to "smell the roses"? Start re-evaluating yourself.

Against Child Labour

People say that human beings are the most intelligent creatures, but we are also the sickest lot of all creatures. Blame it on society who comprises of these supposedly intelligent creatures who made what is today an alarming breed of child militants and child prostitutes. Blame it on the intelligent creatures who fund these, who reap from these, who encourage this by looking at the other way or condoning it. It is these intelligent creatures who have taken away their innocence and youth. And all for what? For industrialization? For tourism? For the country's economy? For the country's defense power? To guard the country's wealth? How is this justifiable with the venereal disease and HIV that a 6 year old might get? How is this worthwhile when a 12 year old knows not how to read but is slick with grenades and duds? A child's life so precious being so quickly tarnished with the harsh reality of life is worthwhile? If we are truly the most intelligent being, how could we have come to this? How could we have let this happen?

Join EndChildLabor

We Lack Compassion

There used to be a time when we could never refuse a beggar. There used to be a time when we could never walk away without buying some trinket from an old lady by the roadside, or a blind man, or a man without legs. Sometimes you'll hear a kid exclaim in fear if they were to stumble upon a beggar. You'll even hear teenagers saying that those people are good-for-nothings, society sampah who asked for it. You'll even see people steer clear away from beggars. I once watched a man without legs crawling on the dirty wet pungent pathways at the congested Chatuchak Market. People stood around him busily bargaining and browsing goods. People ignored him like he was just some stray dog. When tsunami happened, people took advantage of the situation, and there were child rape- paedophiles on the rage. Whatever happened to empathy- all down the toilet when we're in the rat race no? People diss dishwashers and those alien workers Contractors sit around drinking beer comparing which alien workers are dumber-Indonesians, Myanmars, Vietnamese, Nepalese or Bangladeshis. I once saw a woman shouting at a Nepalese boarding the same flight as she is because he was in the way. They forget that these people are human beings too. That they had nowhere to go, no land to belong to. What happened to our compassion to human sufferings?

Fastest Elevator in The World

I couldn't believe it. Fastest Elevator in the world is at Taipei 101. 1010m/min. And wow talk about pimping da' ride! Pretty girls guard the elevators while they speak in fluent Mandarin basic overview of the speed we were riding at and once u unboard, you're greeted by more pretty girls explaining the ride - hah, but there weren't any to explain the engineering of Taipei 101 and the Elevator. There is a quiet observatory area to watch the 730-ton tuned mass damper- erm, being the geek that I was, spent some time there actually.

Ohyea. Taipei 101 is also where people shop..but I din do any shopping at all there coz everything's way too pricey. The foodcourt there is amazing though. Nothing like the Malaysian foodcourt. In general, as many would know, Taiwanese are very passionate about food.

Why Proton Sucks

I'm not going to go political on this. Giving you simple scenarios and so you see what you think. Proton Engineer called me last week and said he's coming over to meet me over some part approval issue. He insisted to come even though I told him that the issue can be simply addressed over the phone. Nope. He came at 12pm. Talk rubbish for 30mins and sheesh it's so obvious he wanted free lunch. Today he asked me to come over to Proton. Over the same damn thing. I asked him where his office is and he couldn't give me simple directions. I asked around and was nearby his office, the W3 area. He said he doesn't know where that is. Fine. Finally I got to his office on my own. But the guy's having a meeting. Waited for 40 fucking minutes. It's rude when customers do not respect suppliers' time. Look, our time is just as important ok. He finally came around- discussed like 5 mins, and he said he wants to have his tea break. I've had just about enough. Very politely I pointed out that there really wasn't much left to discuss so why don't we just go through it very quickly so I can cabut? 3 mins later, I said my thanks and just as I was about to leave, he asked me if I was married. Deng. I said No. He asked when. I said not going to. And everyone, this is just one engineer, just imagine what kind of other thousands of Proton engineers the government is trying to protect.

Modes of Transportation for the People

If you thought sports cars were cool, take a look at this. I captured this image in Canlubong, Manila, Phillippines, picture of a jeepney, some Spanish influence there. Filipinos take the jeepney everywhere, and they are known for the unique decor. Every jeepney is its own, truly unique.

But it is also known not only for its cheap fare, but also its recklessness.

Thanks SPCA

Recently I caught the Adoption Fest at the Bangsar Shopping Center. Bugged me the whole day. The fact that the puppies were caged, poked at, played with, disturbed and on a display. How would you like if you were treated that way. I mentioned this to Che-Cheh, and decided to write to SPCA since they are the organizers. Here's how the email went.

On 12/18/06, wrote:

Hi,I came across the SPCA effort for the Adoption fest. It is a noble move, but however I saw many kids and adults poking at the puppies while the puppies were asleep at Bangsar Shopping Center. Although I am sure that the good intentions are there, perhaps something could be done to protect thepuppies.Thank you very much.

Dog Lover

Dear
Many thanks for your comments. I agree with you, the puppies should not have been treated like this. We do tell volunteers to ask the public not to do this and when I see it happening I do tell people not to (though sometimes I can get distracted talking to other interested people and miss it.) Your comments have been taken on board and thank you for your interest in the SPCA.
Yours sincerely,
Louise van Steveninck

SPCA

And I hope readers who do frequent Bangsar Shopping Center would respect the puppies like how you would want to be respected.

NBA Brawl- Knicks and Nuggets on Sat

NBA Brawl - Caught this on CNN last night and finally found the article on it. 10 players got ejected. Was never a fan of Knicks or the Nuggets but the article struck me that well, sports is sometimes not just a sport for some people. We have a history of violence and big fights stemming from sports events- Tyson vs Holyfield, Zidane vs Materazzi, Monica Seles stabbings by a Graf fan, Pacers and Pistons in the 2004 brawl, Inter and AC Milan 2005 Champion's league quarterfinal flare attack, the list goes on....Sports violence is very much there. On the other hand, certainly the passion and the desire to win is commendable. Quote from George Orwell: "Serious sport has nothing to do with fair play. It is bound up with hatred, jealousy, boastfulness, disregard of all rules and sadistic pleasure in witnessing violence: in other words it is war minus the shooting."

Trust??????????

It's a simple word with a big meaning. Since we were young we were taught never to trust. Never trust a free ride, never trust a free candy, never trust the vege vendor at the pasar basah because she might shortchange you.....the list goes on and on. Even when you went overseas, people say never trust a gwailo. I remember when I was in Canada, Canadians are so nice that where I stayed we never had to lock our doors (there weren't even any gates or fence for chrissake). Would you do that here? Not lock your gates? We even have a freaking gear lock for our cars lah. Canadians don't even lock their cars. Do you even trust your neighbours here enough to give them your housekey? People in NY were so paranoid that they have 3 to 4 locks to their door. I don't even trust the parking attendant who keeps raking my RM3 near the Bangsar mosque parking lot. Seriously I pay the fella so that HE wouldn't mess up my car, not really for him to 'jaga' my car. Heck, I especially don't trust people at work. Someone's always playing some game even if you're not interested to participate in. And everyone's selfish at work, your bosses have got their own agenda, the secretaries have sharp ears, colleagues are always trying to bring u down. So tell me, how the hell can you trust anyone these days? Someone told me that the most important criteria in a relationship is TRUST. But gawd, easier said than done. It's gonna take a whole lot of time. People are so paranoid these days that they don't even let their kids go out and play by the longkang like we used to. Or mix with other kids for fear of kutu or what not, or they just don't trust other kids and of their influences. Some parents also find it hard to entrust their kids to their maids. And for good reasons too. Trust. It's gonna be an extinct in decades to come.

The Sky's The Limit

I took this picture at Bayon- one of the temples at the Angkor Wat Forest Reserve. As I sat down admiring the works of ancient people, I thought to myself that there is really no limit to what man can do. We sit and rant about so many things- but look what we could do if we put an ounce of faith in our dreams. People nowadays are more negative than they should be. Nobody wants to do anything anymore. People are always asking what's the point yadayada. But really, if we sit around and do nothing, we don't accomplish anything. We don't see anything. We don't OWN anything. Let's not go BACKWARDS---- the sky's the limit.

Man and Cat

This is a picture courtesy from Michael Lynn Steele, a friend of mine from US. That's a picture of his cat, Sissy Boy biting at his finger. Sissy Boy is a replacement for Michael's previous cat. I'm no fan of cats, but I think this is a lovely picture showing the 'bond' between them. :)

Boy Of The Year

I call him my Boy of The Year. The little kid in Cambodia who chased me down few dirtpaths trying to get me to buy a scarf from him. Giving me a flower he plucked from the streets, so desperate to get any transaction that day. Little does he know that he has inspired me in many ways. So if ever you see this kid at Bantrey Srei temple in Siem Reap, buy a scarf from him. :)

Great Lengths for Great Looks

Was gallivanting alone around some Night Market in Taipei and came across this. The hostess told me that they were doing 'lai min' supposed to be very common and clears your pores. Had an hour to kill and nowhere to go. So RM50 later, I plopped myself on a chair and waited for the 'treatment'. Worst 'facial ordeal' ever. Felt like I was being pinched at the face repeatedly! The strings they pull make a crisscross at the pores they wanna clear and scrapes off the facial hair as well. Why in the logical sense this gives you beautiful skin baffles me. Sorry, it's gonna take a lot more than vanity for me to ever EVER do this again.

They Weren't Kidding about Strikes in Taiwan

In my brief stint in Taiwan few months back, I probably saw too many strikes to last a lifetime. This was taken in front of the Holiday Inn-Asiaworld Taipei...apparently hotel staff was on strike because of low wages........

And this was just a random picture I took at the square....people on strike against Chen Sui Bien- President of Taiwan.....They gather DAILY there with sponsored buses.

There's nothing more incredible than people being passionate about human rights and politics. People can make a difference.

What's With That Attitude?

Here's a list of traits and bad attitude that we can do without :

1) Being Stingy- you know, a treat or two won't hurt you. And girls shouldn't really expect men to pay everytime, women can treat guys too. Best is to go AA. And then there are those who leech on others. If you're poor or tight on money, just tell me and I'm happy to belanja you. But don't say things like "I forgot my wallet"..."Pay for me first, pay you back later" and then u never did anyway.

2) It's All About Me, Me, Me- look once in a while, I can indulge and try to be a listener- but it's annoying when all I ever got to talk about is about YOU.

3) High Class Snobs- I know you're rich but don't rub it to my face. Don't diss me for my jewellery-free self coz I really can't afford it. Snobs who don't befriend certain people because they don't meet their criteria.

4) Uptight bitches- U know those type. The type who looks down on you because you curse freely and talk freely, who thinks I'm mad because I hangout with guys, that I'm being myself, that I'm not acting like how a woman should be. Screw that ok. That's what I am. I'm answerable to no one but my family and me. Life's too short to be the UNREAL YOU.

GOT ANY?

In A Xmas-y Mode

I'm no Christian, but you don't have to be one to appreciate Xmas...and Xmas songs. I was not great at piano but I did learn some Xmas songs- my fave piano piece being "I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus". (Listen to lil MJ's version-superb). I was at Bangsar last night and there were some carolling going on at the pub where we were- sent me and my buddies to a Xmasy mood. For me, Xmas is family time-and I await happily for my family to reunite and celebrate Xmas. And here's signing off with my personal favourite Xmas song rendition of Chestnuts Roasting On An Open Fire -a duet - Frank Sinatra and Nat King Cole- simply superb combo, download it!

Chestnuts roasting on an open fire,
Jack Frost nipping on your nose,
Yuletide carols being sung by a choir,
And folks dressed up like Eskimos.

Everybody knows a turkey and some mistletoe,
Help to make the season bright.
Tiny tots with their eyes all aglow,
Will find it hard to sleep tonight.

They know that Santa's on his way;
He's loaded lots of toys and goodies on his sleigh.
And every mother's child is going to spy,
To see if reindeer really know how to fly.

And so I'm offering this simple phrase,
To kids from one to ninety-two,
Although its been said many times, many ways,
A very Merry Christmas to you

What Beauty is To Me....

There's really no divine definition for beauty. There is beauty in almost everything we see around us, if only we stop to 'smell the roses' (pinjam from Tache :) ) I see beauty in a child's laughter, babies can't fake laughter like adults do, babies shriek in utter happiness. I see beauty in a genuine heartfelt smile that gives that person a glow. I see beauty in that boy last night who told me affectionately and honestly of how great his mom is, supporting him at times when he's being a nuisance. I see beauty in an unsaid bond between grandparents and their grandchildren, as they play happily together despite the generation gap. I see beauty in a mother overwhelmed with the sight of her newborn child. I see beauty in friends who stick by each other through thick and thin, even if boyfriends and girlfriends fail them. I see beauty in a nervous elderly man holding hands with his wife at his bedside awaiting surgery- that unbeatable support and warmth that comes free. I see beauty in a reluctant farewell and goodbyes at the airport. So yah, guys/girls may sit and gawk at beautiful women/men, but there's more to beauty than just bod and face. Look around you and spot beauty - genuine beauty.

It's the Company that Matters

Finally graduated from a Dip course I'm doing. We separated with a Chicken Dance during the class and then we bunked ourselves at a shabby cafe grabbing a bite. These people ranging from 18 years old to 50 years old are the best. Although probably sharing little in common we all were reluctant and sad that it was the last class EVER. Already we were making plans for dinner and gatherings. Felt a sudden tinge of sadness that we won't have those 7 hour long classes anymore. Weird aye?

Departed for yet another gathering with some friends - none of the guys brought their gfs, they just wanna hangout with their buddies and drink the night away. You ever had that feeling where you're so comfortable with the gang that sometimes a lot of things are left unsaid and there wasn't a need to impress anyone. Why, sometimes you're just sitting there having a drink and laughing with them for no particular reason. By the end of the night, we were conversing in Mandarin-mind you, we are all bananas....The thing is we don't mind acting silly together...how many people could?

Many people guard themselves too much. You're not you if you don't reveal the real you. And why do you wanna be the FAKE YOU when it's all the more exhausting trying to be someone you're not. And who says the FAKE YOU is better? A genuine expression/face tells a lot more of a person than a fake expression. Having fun has nothing to do with what activity you have or event you're involved in, or the amount of good planning you put into, it's really the company that matters and how fun YOU want it to be. You could dump me in the jungle and I would still be having a roaring time. :)

We Don't Smile Enough

WE Malaysians are in dire need to learn how to smile. Gets really kinda awkward you know when you're in the lift, and you wanna smile at the person in the lift and when you do, the other person totally ignores it or look away. I live in an apartment so taking the lift is an everyday kinda thing for me. Frankly, I really appreciate a good smile. A genuine one. That's a gem. In Canada, people give meaningless greetings to strangers "Hi, Good day...." when walking down the street. In US, I could strike up a conversation with anyone in the subway by just smiling at someone. In Malaysia, you'll be smiling but no one smiles back at you and u end up looking like a smiling moron. You know, smiling required probably just facial muscles and a bit of effort. I know it lits my day when I see a genuine smile. So make an effort to smile at one person at least today.

New Toll Rates in Klang Valley

New Toll Rates? The new toll charges are: LDP, RM1.60 (previously RM1), L'raya Shah Alam, RM2.20 (RM1.50), L'raya Cheras-Kajang, Batu 9, RM 1 (70 sen) L'raya Cheras-Kajang, Batu 11, 90 sen (60 sen ), L'raya KL-Karak-Gombak, RM5, L'raya KL-Karak-Bentong, RM3 (RM2.50) and L'raya Koridor Guthrie, RM1.40 (RM1).

Why don't the government just take my whole goddamn salary and shove it inside the toilet bowl? Do they think that we don't know the 'duit kopi' they get from construction? If they hadn't up-ed the profit margin just so that the 'duit kopi' can be justified, you would have enough revenue to ensure that we pay less toll now. Weren't all the maintenance fees required and estimated revenue based on projected traffic taken into account to when the toll rates were first formulated for a newly built highway? What is the justification that we are still paying TOLL and now MORE TOLL when we should be seeing a decline in toll rates in view of the traffic and revenue generated? See LDP, probably one of the most heavily-utilised highway- the toll rates are revised from RM1 to RM1.60......60% jack up. Ridiculous. I've got better ways for the government to make more revenue....see this list.

1) Reduce no. of workers in government sectors- look, government workers are slow anyway- give them 10 people or 1 person, it's still the same.

2) Remove the air-conditioning units at the toll collectors booth! Geez, the amount of electricity and energy required to 'condition' one fella in the small little booth baffles me. Fan not sufficient meh? I'm not even going to go into how much is the profit margin of those the York fellas are raking in. hehe

3) Get the traffic polices off the road! They don't help with the traffic at all! If ever, they only make it worse. I never understood why people think that traffic polices can navigate the traffic better than a fully functional traffic lights. Get them off and we reduce no of useless traffic police.

4) Stick to only 2 modes of payment- Cash or Smart Tag. Not Cash, Touch N Go, Smart Tag. The less payment modes you have, the less you gotta pay out to different contractors to install the units- and by doing so, you can ask for cost down for the contractor since it's gonna be single sourcing and not dual or triple sourcing.

There are many ways that the govt can think of to cost down but they took the easy way out- raising the toll rates because it's just easier to shed it off the rakyat's already meagre salary. Cmon, our standard of living is already pathetic enough. Want to end up like Indonesia, is it?

What is Menjolok Mata?

Really, I think we've got it ALL wrong. First it was this govt idiot who commented on the way the female journalist dress hence how the CCTV captured the wrong stuff. Then it was the whole Kelantan thingy 'controlling' how women should dress. Can we be any MORE BACKWARD? Men would always be men, and different things turn men on...cmon, not so long ago we have heard in the news of a security guard raping kids. Those kids weren't dressed sexily to lure these people! The forbidden is always more intriguing. The more we control, the more people would rebel. Paedophiles and rapists - they do not only target sexily clad women...can we not see that? Just last year on my way back on a limo taxi from KLIA, dressed in denim shorts and a cacat t-shirt, I was requested by the taxi driver to cover up my legs with a jacket! MCH! I'm not even the sexy type or with incredible hot legs, I was freaking tan with sandflea bites and I got this! Look, if he can't bloody handle a short thing like me in shorts and t-shirt, what do I have to do? Cover head to toe despite the fact that I just came back from the beach? Wear a goddamn jubah? Refrain from wearing skirts and shorts for the rest of my life? I'm sorry. I'm just not up for that. I want to know I have that freedom of choice of what I wanna wear. Sexy or not. Next thing you know, they'll be banning guys from wearing singlets because it encourages HOMOSEXUALITY. Yar, THAT would be the next big thing in the news. Get a life.

An Interesting Encounter

I met an interesting character last night. A friend's friend, some 25 year old guy who wants us to teach him something. How to open a restaurant in Melbourne. Quickly we got our good friend who was working part time in Adelaide to indulge in the conversation. Enlighten the kid. And well, as I depart with him of what little I know based on my waitressing experience, I asked him if he had any restaurant experience at all. None. Can he cook? Nope. Know anything about wine? Nope. And so, I ask him why he's taking this big step then. The rationale to him is simple. He measured left right center and he knew that he would never have enough to save in Malaysia. Simply put, he told me, the life we had in Canada, low cost of living but high quality of living, and in Malaysia, high cost of living AND low quality of living, so why waste time opening a restaurant in Malaysia. Why doesnt he just go to somewhere he likes and start a business there where he knows the fruits of his labour would be worthwhile later on. True, very true. And well, the next three years he rationalize that he'll be 28 and wouldn't want to be slaving in Malaysia for a meagre salary of RM3K doing something that he hates and with little chance to spend it. True. And well, some of my friends said he's a dreamer, but to me, is better to DARE TO DREAM than to never at all. Some people just sit and rant about how pathetic their lives is and do nothing about it. At least, this guy is literally getting a ticket out of here and doing something about the dream by next Jan'07. And I did tell him, well, even if he didn't make it out there in Melbourne, at least he tried and he's got nothing to lose to begin with. You don't wanna be stuck at some mamak years later regretting or always wondering what would have happened if you took that big step. Seize the day. Carpe Diem.

Masquerade

I always say life's a masquerade,
with people of many different facades,
hiding when derailed and enraged,
smiling yet desperately summoning courage,
when love becomes a mirage,
fronting a brave face,
when you're actually falling apart......
but don't live without leaving a trace.

Can We Not Do Bitch-ing Sessions?

Is it a girl thing to sit around and bitch about something or someone? Perhaps I don't show it enough but I really don't dig sitting at some fancy cafe talking bad about some other person. Don't see a point to it. And yet, many women enjoy that kinda thing. For me, it's an act of cowardice!

No. 1, if you dislike someone, just tell him/her off when he/she is pissing you off. Right at that moment. Don't dwell, and then make a fuss over it when you could have said something.

No. 2, talking bad about someone with the rest of the world, I mean, what the hell you wanna do that for? Get the whole world to agree? You need to get affirmation from the rest of the world?

No. 3, if you bitch so much about that person, that person obviously shouldn't matter in your life, so why should you care? Why are you getting so worked up over that one person who doesn't mean a thing in your life? Heck care.

No. 4, but if that person is actually a fren of yours, talk to him/her directly, give him/her brutal honesty of what you think. If he/she can't accept it then fine, at least you've said your piece. Don't be a coward. I'll rather be at some shabby kopitiam downing beer or kopi-o, or at some beat up mamak talking crap than be at some fancy Starbucks having a bitching session. There's more to life than this.

Stop It Please- Just Do the Work

It's been hell of a month. At work at least. But great nevertheless- beats having nothing to do, if you know what I mean. What I can't stand is people just complaining about the work they've gotta do even before attempting to it. This is farking hard, this is farking too much, this place is farking far...and it goes on and on. Hey, money doesn't come easy ok. And work is just work, you've gotta do it, put yourself to the test. TALKING about it ain't gonna get the work done. Really farks me up when these people talk about how difficult the work is. Heck, you're nothing if you don't give it a try and give up just like that. NO matter how hard it gets, working here is STILL better than slaving my ass in US, where I never got to see the daylight, when every meal is the same old crap- rice and chicken+potato, where my only mode of transportation were my legs and the subway, where my weekends were my money-scrapping days, where you don't get to sit at all for 10 hours straight, freaking no-lifer kay. Heck, so if anyone ask me I'll say yeah, I'm a fucked up engineer in this small company but hey, it's way better than working in the US. At least, I'm in my own place, Malaysia's nothing to shout about but at least it's where I belong. You know that feeling when you've got all the money you want but you dont have the time to spend the money? That's how it was like. You're so crazed by the dollars you make that after a while, you realize that you're missing out on the little things. Like picnics at the beach, a frappie in the day, a cuppa in the morning with your friends, teh tariks in the wee mornings...So really, just do the work. And just love it.

Chillout Weekend

"I'm dreaming of a White Xmas...yadayadaya"..the merry sounds of carolling at the Portuguese Settlement sent me on a christmasy mood. Food was so-so but the company was fantastic, who would have thought that a weekend out with some strangers would be this great. It was a weekend where Age didn't matter, Liquor Intake knows no boundaries anytime anywhere, no itinerary required ...... But really, it was the company that mattered, there was an 18 year old whackjob who's a delight if you don't mind the constant rambling and yet stealing 'thunders' from the adults once a while, Hang Botak who's ever the daddy making sure we were taken care of but can be sarcastic as hell, a scout at heart whom we're still not quite too sure if he's gay - has lotsa unfinished toe business with the 18 year old kid, a great organizer who'd make a a great mommy someday I'm sure, Camwhore King and Queen- Suzie and Cely, she brings camwhoring all to the next level, and Suzie, well, you have great Sunsilk hair :). It is indeed a back-to-reality day today but the memory of a wonderful weekend lingers on....Great things come when you least expected it. :)

Favourite Superheroes

Hey, we all grew up watching and idolizing Superheroes or Comic Hero, and I bet one or two of us used to have a Superman suit! Here's a list of some of the all-time favourite superheroes:

1) Bart Simpson (Cowabunga!)

2) Homer Simpson (DUH)

3) Superman

4) Spiderman

5) Batman

6) Catwoman

7) For a while, I really liked Kenny in Southpark, i think he has character

CAn't think of anymore but who's yours?

Favourite Villains

The Villains in the movies are just as important as the heroes if not more....And then there are some actors who always play the villain, no matter what movie they're in, eg. Jack Nicholson and Willem Dafoe. And then there are lousy villains who fail to make an impression like Dr. Octopus in Spiderman 2. And then there are great villains you just can't help rooting for. And so here's a list of FAVOURITE VILLAINS

1) The Joker from Batman

2) The Terminator (when it was bad that is...)

3) Dr. Evil from Austin Powers (haha)

4) Alien vs Predators...(I couldnt choose between these two...who to root for)

5) Denzel Washington in The Training Day (ah, Denzel, Denzel)

6) Robert DeNiro as Al Capone in The Untouchables

7) Marshmallow Man in The Ghostbusters (only because it's funny haha)

8) Freddie Krueger from Tales from the Crypt

9) Dracula from any damn Dracula movie

Well, by the way, anyone notice that we can NEVER remember any great villains from the James Bond flicks?????