i wish people would stop asking me how much i'm paying for wedding angpaus...or white paus....or how much i'm spending on birthday gifts. People ask because they wanna compare. Make sure it's 'within the market range'.
First of all, how much you wanna pay is from the heart. if the person getting married is your buddy, then you pay whatever you think you can afford and based on how well you know that person. In the first place, why are u there unless if the person is a close friend or colleague, or obligatory because of some distant relationship, or a relative.
Second of all, really depends where the dinner is. Roughly can estimate mar. As for white paus, there are no guidelines. It's really from the heart.
And birthday gifts. I dunno why my girlfriends have a habit of first asking me if i'm getting a gift at all for the birthday person including lunch/dinner that we're paying for the birthday girl. I usually do. And if i did, they'll ask how much i paid for it. Then if they can share with me. What the hell???? You didn't get a gift and now u wanna leech on me, what? so you don't lose face? not be the only BAD FRIEND who showed up without a gift?
sorry, but my gifts are personalized. i try my best to choose something nice for the birthday person and no,,,,you're not going to CONVENIENTLY SHARE it with me.
SO EVERYONE, stop asking. Just 'pau' whatever u can or whatever that you think fits. Use your head.